Hey, I’m Amy.

I’m a student, new on the Ghostwriting staff, that you can write an anonymous letter to if you have any… how do I word this? Personal issues or problems at home, with relationships, with school, stuff like that, send it in. Don’t worry; I am a student, because I know that you think your teachers lived amongst the dinosaurs and have no idea what we’re going through. I promise that e-mails and names will be confidential if you want to send anything in. Just sign it with a creative name, I’m sure that you’ve read similar articles. Desperate to Be Seen, Stressed About School, Heartbroken… and the like. I’ll try to keep a theme for each post. I will try my best to respond to every post, but I may not be able to publish every one on The Ghostwriter. My advice will be unbiased, although maybe a little judgmental. But that’s what we need sometimes: for a person to tell us the honest truth. Even if it hurts.

And it seem like you guys have some problems even without me here. I found this earlier:

Dear Amy,

I am not a social butterfly whatsoever. I have a real problem communicating with other people, and making new friends. Even though I try to reach out to people, I am often very quiet and have a hard time starting a conversation. People tease me a lot because I’m really smart in class, like I get good grades. But I am not street smart and am totally devoid of social skills. How do I become popular, someone people want to be around?

Invisible Girl

Dear Invisible Girl,

Don’t worry too much about this; it doesn’t take that much work to fix. Start by finding people that are in several of your classes, or that seem to have similar interests. Don’t try to jump into the middle of a conversation, this usually results in people starting at you like you sprouted a third eye. Instead, try partnering up with them during group work. Laugh at their jokes, and tell some of your own funny stories. Be outgoing but not overbearing. And just because you have had one conversation with these people does not mean that you are instantly friends, so don’t follow them around. Friendship takes time to build, plus they might think you’re stalking them. Have fun and be yourself, because if you need to change yourself to make friends, then they’re not worth it. A senior would also like to add that you shouldn’t try to jump right in there, “Say something smart, not something stupid. ‘Cause saying something stupid makes you look like a moron. Loyalty is important. And don’t set yourself up to be in one particular group. Because that’s just boring.”

Amy

Here’s another one from a boy. So guys don’t be shy; no one’s going to know it’s you.

Dear Amy,

I have this huge crush on a girl. But I don’t think that she thinks of me as anything more than just friends. What do I do?

Not Her Bro

Dear Bro,

I can understand what you’re going through, the girl may be feeling the same way. Just casual gestures such as a brush on the arm, a quick hug when she’s ecstatic or sad, or even a secret smile across the class that lasts a few seconds longer than usual. Its the little things that will show her you care. But if she isn’t responding, just screw up your courage and tell her. It’s not as bad as it sounds, because she most likely will be flattered that you have a crush on her and will be happy make the feeling mutual. If not, don’t worry because the feelings will go away over time. Appreciate your friendship and move on, because chances are that she already has. All in all, try your hardest and good luck! Another anonymous student wants to say, “Just tell her she’s beautiful. Respect her. Keep eye contact. Don’t be a total creep. And if you’re that far in the friend zone, there is no hope. … Good luck!” Trust me, everyone will agree about this: if you are totally in the friend zone, there is totally no chance of dating.

Amy

Now that you guys have an idea of what I do, just send me an e-mail at:   amykoolkid.notarealgirl@gmail.com

See you next time!

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